A gay or bisexual will realize their sexual orientation almost 13 years old. Because a person could have obvious gender consciousness at this age. They could pick up the person who can attract them with enough ability to distinguish. This is a period of sexual orientation enlightenment. Many gays and bisexuals begin to have the crush on person. Different sexual orientation often makes them uncomfortable and worrying.
Someone choose to come out to their best friends. This is the best way to pour out. It’s not suitable to have a gay or bisexual relationship at that age. So that, many gays and bisexuals are pass that time with a hazy feeling and some longing of the special relationship. Until they grow up and identify themselves, they could actually become a gay and bisexual.
Normal people have so hard a identify process. How do inborn deaf-mutes know that they are gay or bisexual? This is related to the way they know the world. Smell and touch is the basic way of deaf-mutes to know the world. But the most important way to understand the world is our feeling. All of our senses makes up our feeling. Listen, watch, smell, touch and speak is all the basic sense of human. When a people lose one or more basic senses, then others senses will be stronger than normal humans. This is why so many blind persons work on piano tuner.
From this perspective, the biggest advantage of deaf-mutes gays and bisexuals is sensitive touch and smell. The difference between males and females is not only the macroscopic features but also different types of hormones.
We often said that “you smell so sexy”. It does not means sexy could be smelled. It is the smell makes us been attracted. The male and female also have different smell. In the Animalia, many animals attract partner with smell. I think it’s possible a main way for deaf-mutes gays and bisexuals to identify themselves. In their world, maybe not have the word “come out”. Here only have good smell and normal smell in their mind.
Another key factor for deaf-mutes gays and bisexuals to identify themselves is touch. We use touch to learn the world. The shape of the thing, temperature, hardness of something and so on. Almost all things in the world we could feel it by touching. All of our skin can touch the world, but not just by hands. Feel the wind, the water and the temperature of your lips. Although deaf-mutes gays and bisexuals couldn’t live as normal. But I think it couldn’t be the hinder of their self-knowledge.
They may meet less people than normal human. It means they have less chance to find suitable partner. But the biggest advantage of deaf-mutes gays and bisexuals is that they looking for partner by using heart and feeling.