Like most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. For women, it’s perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to research, it’s the norm.
In fact, researchers at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex. 60 percent of women are attracted to other women. Are you one of them? I fall into that 60 percent.
Sometimes when I catch myself staring at a beautiful woman in the grocery store, I wonder about my own sexuality. I’m not supposed to like girls! (At least according to society.) Would I date a woman? I’m not sure, but I am attracted to the beauty of other women — and they’re so much easier to understand psychologically than men. We girls form deep relationships through friendships, which some say are the basis of love. And personally I believe that emotional connection and physical attraction are linked — i.e., guys tend to get cuter in our eyes if they’re genuinely nice.
From talking about personal issues for hours to calling each other “lovers” (well, maybe that’s just women in my generation), women’s friendships are often barely distinguishable from romantic relationships.
When heterosexual women hook up with bisexual women, their relationships is based on an emotional connection. It only takes the right person for convince a woman to enter into a relationship with someone of the same sex. Does that make them bisexual? Not exactly.
In a study conducted by Diamond, the older a woman was, the more likely she was to describe her sexual preference as “unlabeled”. “We have this idea that sexuality gets clearer and more defined as time goes on”. We consider that a sign of maturity to figure out who you are. I’ve seen it’s really the opposite.
Women in the media are often sexualized and women constantly get the message that appearance should be important to them, so they’re used to viewing women in a sexualized way.
I wonder how much of the attraction to other women is based on appearance and messages from the media, and how much of it authentic and genuine. Should we even try to distinguish between the two?