We all did many stupid and crazy things with our friends or partner in the past. I still remember the most stupid thing I have done with my partner. We are lesbian couple. There are many funny things happen every day. I drew a picture on her face while she was sleeping. She took away the toilet paper before I went to washroom, then I sit in washroom for 2 hours. But it isn’t the end. To surprise her, I put back her watch, so that she was late to a party and dancing in front of everyone as punishment.
Although we try to make trouble to each other every day. But we know that it is not childish and bored. On the contrary, it’s love. We get a lot of fun when we’re making trouble for each other. Our life become more active. And we could know more about each other. I cannot say if it’s good to be a lesbian, but met her is really a lucky thing.
Of cause, our life is not composed of kinds of mischief. It’s just a condiment of life and bring us many funs to withstand the troubles. Every morning she will cook breakfast for me. She love black tea very much and I will make tea for her every day. I have a terrible memory. She always take the sun cream, umbrella, home key while traveling. We are not only the partner of each other but also the friend, folk. We play ourselves roles very good. I think you must watch the movie “Leon”. The killer Leon meet sweet girl Mathilda. They looks like a couple but not the real couple. They accompany each other, take care of each other. I like this kind of feeling. Cold heart could be thawed by warm love.
I love my partner, we cannot have sex like straight couple. We didn’t come out like others gay couples. We come from different cities but live together now. We are lovely, mature girl. We also are tiny lesbian couple in the million population city. Not too many people could notice us. We live in our own little world and enjoy the normal life. At the same time, we have our own friend circle. She joined a lesbian community and I joined a bisexual & lesbian community. We chat with other lesbian and bisexual there and talk about the LGBT topics. We meet many friends and try to help other lesbian fish. Many lesbian, gay, bisexual are looking for partner or date. Wish you all good luck.
If you are lucky to be a bisexual fish, don’t worry about it. There are some tips from others’ experience, and those tips could help you to blend in bisexual group faster. If you are lucky to be a bisexual fish, don’t worry about it. There are some tips from others’ experience, and those tips could help you to blend in bisexual group faster.
Bisexuality is different with other sexual orientation people. Bisexuality is harder to identify than gay and lesbian. Based on the flow of the sexual, bisexual people have a multidirectional choices. These choices could confuse bisexual people. But don’t worry about it. Every Bi people has experienced it. They have some tips for the bisexual fish.
1. Don’t be restrained by your identify. Sexual orientation is flowing. It could change in the future. The bisexual label will not follow you forever. At first, you should know that you are bisexual at present. There are some women who identify as lesbian even though they date men. The function of label is that it could help you find the right community. So that the label is not permanent even if it is daunting. Don’t treat the label as an invariable faith.
2. Bisexual community grow up fast. You even don’t know “bisexual” when you are in senior high school. You may not meet any bisexual in college. But after graduation you can met so many gay, lesbian, bisexual. Bisexual is everywhere. You just don’t know it. Because gay, lesbian and straight are obviously. Anyone may indeed be bisexual. If you can join a bisexual community, you will know it clearly.
3. Whether to coming out.This is not only care about bisexuality. Gay and lesbian also face the same question. It’s harmful to anyone that suppress themselves for a long time. You may know who is really love you when you come out. The people who don’t care about you may reject you without hesitation. The people who treat you as acquaintance will alienation you. The people who really love you will always give you warm hug anytime and anywhere. So what is your choice?
Human’s nature is exploring. Exploring the unknown area and ourselves. I have a question since the day I identified as bisexual. How many bisexual lives in the world. I know nobody could give me the detailed figures. Because nobody could finish the statistical work, it is beyond work itself.
Depend on the definition of human’s gender, we can easy to differentiate LGTS people. But bisexual people is the hardest to differentiate. Why? Because themselves are confused sometime. This is the reason that bisexual’s self-identify is usually late than gay & les. If you are attracted by a cute girl and you sure that the feeling is real, what should you do? At the same time, you are attracted by a handsome boy and you also sure that the feeling is real, what should you do?
Heterosexual often meet the first situation. And it’s often comes out in the beginning of a film. Almost all love story begin with a moment that a female/male attract by another female/male. If the roles are male, it’s a gay film. If the roles are female, it’s a lesbian film. If the roles have both female and male, it’s a heterosexual film. It could not accurate, it may be a bisexual film too. But bisexual feature film is really infrequent. Because it really hard to control. Let’s talk about the reason below.
Bisexual of meet the second situation. You will confused the problem. If you choose the girl, it’s just a heterosexual love story. If you choose the boy, it’s just a gay love story. But if you choose both of them, I don’t know whether they can accept you. What I can sure is the social will reject your relationship. In human’s history, the loyal love is a very important rule. It’s a moral base line to everyone. Who go against it is challenge the rule. But bisexual is seems born to go against the rule. Many bisexuals are choose to observe the rule. So that bisexual could hardly been acknowledge by social. Therefore, bisexual was labelled many tags. This sexual orientation was rejected by many people (include bisexual) automatically. Bisexual choose to live as gay or heterosexuality.
In addition to this, out of fresh or trend many youth come out as bisexual. They may just for fun or looking for an exciting date. But it hurt someone who want find a serious relationship. Two people’s world are very complicated, much less three people’s world. The people have a bisexual marriage is very lucky. Not all bisexual want a bisexual marriage. A simple and normal life is enough for most people. And they are not willing to show their bisexual identify. We will never know how many bisexual in the world. So, let it become a secret. Anyway, a happiness life is most important.