A person is attracted by the same sex or the opposite sex is not immutable. But will change over time – this is usually determined by the environment at that time. This phenomenon is called sexual fluidity. For example, if a heterosexual can only get along with same sex people, and then they may feel that the sexual attraction and emotional temptation from the same sex friends has increased. As with other social traits, sexual preference, attitudes, behavior and identity are some extent variable.
The difference between sexuality fluidity and bisexuality.
Sexual fluidity can occur on absolute heterosexual or gay, but this only represents one time sexual response. For example, you like tender girls. But you will suddenly find that a girl who can stimulate you in a fresh way of excitement. You may love the both two girls.
Although some absolute heterosexuals have sex with same sex people, but do not represent they are bisexuals. This only shows that they have sexual fluidity.
In some of the cases studied, some women who were essentially heterosexual found that they fall in love with a particular woman. But they still claimed to be straight. It does not mean that these women are bisexual. They are only obsessed with an individual. And this individual happens to be same sex by chance.
Emotional connection and sexual desire are fundamentally different. A person can fall in love without sexual desire.
Male and Female.
If you study the data, you will find that the female group is more likely to sexual fluidity than male group. For example, lesbian are more likely to have sexual relations with opposite sexual than gay. Of course, this is only the conclusion of statistics. Cannot defined all man and woman. There are many men and women who do not show signs of sexual fluidity.
There have been a number of studies devoted male sexuality, including a study in 2016. Investigated men’s sexual experiences over the past 12 months. The results show that the man who had sex with homosexuality, straight is more than gay. And almost no one was identified as bisexual. This may be another example of male sexuality fluidity.
“Could bisexuality be corrected?” there always have “good” people who are worried about this question.
My question is “Could straight be corrected?” Why does straight need to be corrected? maybe you will asked me. “Because straight is different from us.” Is this answer justified?
There is gay where there is straight. Both gay and straight are intrinsic. So why don’t we correct straight first!
The psychological roots of gay & bisexual need to be corrected is: First, as “most people” thought, we are born to give the “dissidents” in the group a tag type. The public is not understanding enough to gay & bisexual. And they are easily marked the label “promiscuity, AIDS” by the mass media.
The idea above has finished analyze, let’s discuss what measures have done to correct gay & bisexual.
Did anyone try to correct gay & bisexual? Of course, the so-called “treatment” usually takes the behavioral approach. One of my bisexual friend told me that once he had a period of doubt about his sexual orientation. He decided to correct it because he wanted to figure himself out: “I am male first and then I am bisexual”. With the spirit of being responsible for himself, he accepted a period of the so-called “correction”.
The way of correct is shows him some pictures. The theme of these pictures are male and female. At the same time there are instruments attached to his body. Once he have a physical response to the male pictures, he applied an electric shock. “After having several treatment, I am not only don’t interested in men, but also don’t interested in human.” He said.
Many countries claim that gay & bisexual are not any kind of mental illness, mental disorders or emotional problems. Any external means attempt to change the behavior of human nature will cause great harm to people’s physical and mental. Whether it is gay & bisexual or straight.
More or less we can meet gay, bisexual in our life. Maybe our friends, maybe neighbors. Some people always show disdain eyes to gay & bisexual when they meet them. Even they are stranger. The gay & bisexual have nothing to do with him/her. Who make it happen? Why this situation don’t change for a long time?
People don’t like gay but they more dislike bisexual. In their eyes, gay just like the same sexual people. They have no bad influence to other people. But what does bisexual did? Looking for date when they have a partner. Blow hot and cold between male and female. This is most people impression of bisexual. Maybe I summarize is not comprehensive enough. It’s just an example of people’s opinion to bisexual.
For the moment, I don’t discuss it. Let’s talk about the live situation of bisexual. Bisexual is a very small group for all people. Because of the sexual characteristic, many bisexuals will identify themselves at adult. During the time bisexual identify themselves, they will try to date with both same sexual and opposite sexual. Then find out with sexual they prefer. A straight people will have several love experience to find the true love. Bisexual need more experience to find the true love. At first they must identify the sexual orientation. Some bisexual can easy to identify themselves. Love female or male sometimes become a big trouble to bisexual. So they pretend to straight or gay to date with different people. Just for fun or looking for who they are.
Does it wrong? I don’t think so. Bisexual cannot control their feelings of love. In fact, no one could before they make sure fall in love with someone. This is reason why there are so many single people in the world. Many bisexual have a happiness life when they make up their mind to married with someone. Bisexual have no difference with others. You should pack up your disdain eyes.
This is a question for bisexual? If you are bisexual, you can ask yourself. I think different people must have different idea.
I think many bisexuals have tried to married with straight. Few bisexuals have the courage to married with gay or build a threesome family. We live on the earth. The living environment is very important for us. Not only the physics environment, but also the emotion environment. I have to say that sometimes we have to compromise.
Maybe you are freedom fighter, you will fighter for free love. I just want to say, I’m not. I’m prefer to be a guardian. Guard what? My family, friends and the people I love. So, you will have the question, who can heart them? No body except me. Beyond doubt, my family and friends are loving me without additional conditions. The reason why I talk about that I want to be a guardian is that I also love them too. As everyone knows, both gay and bisexual can hardly been accepted by straight. There are so much reasons. We don’t talk about it in this article. We only talk about the result be caused by the fact.
If you are single bisexual & gay and you can also ignore the sight of others, you can chase the dream of build a bisexual and gay family. In fact, many bisexual and gay choose to do this. Then adopt a child. But there are no researches show that the child will not be affected by their gay & bisexual parents. At least, this action is one kind of test. Within the sphere permitted by law I think it is worth to have a try.
But if you not single and you have a very happiness family, it’s really difficult for you to come out. There are huge pressure from family and social. Few lucky guys could get the support of family. There are two choices for left gay & bisexual. The one is come out in spite of everything. Another way is hide their identities. But lies always been find out someday. The truth is very cruel. But I refuse to accept it.
I couldn’t live a compromise life. I’m not a free fighter, also don’t yield to the social pressure. I understand who I am. I want the serious relationship with a bisexual or gay. I have date with many people on the bisexual date site. We live in the same city. But we have independent living. I don’t need to come out. Have no necessary to fight with anyone. What I should do is focus on the people who want date with me. I think this is the best life to me.
Return to theme, I think bisexual don’t need to have regular sex partner. But bisexual need regular date. We live in the same city. But we have independent living.