Obviously, this question cannot be discussed in those countries which don’t acknowledge gay’s marriage. But we often get “No” answer from countries which open gay’s marriage. If you are gay, have you ever think about the question – Why we need to get married?
Different from straight marriage, gay’s marriage open from the modern era. Many gay couples choose not get married. Not all of gay couples are not willing to get married. They just not sure is it worth to do. Get married become very easy now. You just need a piece of paper and post your photos on it, then you got married. It looks like so easy, but will you believe a piece of paper, even it receive legal protection. Of cause not. What receive legal protection is the relationship, but not your love. But sometimes gay couples don’t know how to protect the tender relationship.
There are many straight couples around us. You could see them at bus station, at super market, on the street, almost anywhere. Have you saw many gay couples around you? For most of gay couples, there is few experience of marriage for them. No one knows whether it is a good choice. This situation lead that we can hardly learn about gay’s marriage. Even the gay guys could hardly learn about it.
There are two ways for him to learn about gay’s marriage. The one is join some gay dating sites. They could chat many gay friends there and learn about gay relationship. Or looking for a good guy to dating and experience the true gay love. The other way is join some gay parties or clubs. If you want learn about someone, you need to join his life. Observer could never make the right choice. Only the real experience is credible.
It is easy to understand why gay people don’t like to get marriage in the situation above. There is another serious problem. If homosexual choose to build a family, should they bring up children? I think it is not absolute. It is depend on the willing of gay couple. Some people support the view that gay couldn’t bring up children. Their argument is gay parents’ sexual orientation will have a bad influence to the children. But I think it’s absurd. According to the theory, killer’s children should be killer; liars’ children should be liar; robbers’ children should be robber. Answer my question with your common senses, does it right? We use love and outlook on life but not sexual orientation to teach children. Everyone have themselves sexual orientation, it couldn’t be changed. The only difference between gay’s children and straight’s children is gay’s children have a good acceptability to gay. It have been proved by many researcher.
As a gay please remember that no matter what choice you did, please make sure you are free and you are willing to do it.
I’m a gay, but I really want be a girl. I want show my love to partner in public. I want kiss him, I want hug him. But others always look at us with strange eyes. I cannot turn a blind eye to it. I cannot live like other gays. I’m uncomfortable about it.
I wish my love could get blessing from all my friends and folks. But my parents don’t like my partner. They look at us just like we are stranger. Our friends often make fun of us. I know that they are unintentional. But they have hurt me actually.
I receive many requests from gay community. Because I often join some gay parties and have fun in gay club. I don’t want join any community because I just want live my life. I want play with other gays but not join a group of community. Are you must join a clan if you like play game? Of cause not. I’m a small potato and don’t want show something to others. The main wish is find a man who could love me forever, like the story in the book. He don’t need to be the rich and handsome. But he must be a kind man. We could traveling together. Play all the items in amusement park like all couples.
I want be a girl, so that we don’t need to come out. I want be a girl, so that our marriage could get blessing from all of our friends and folks. I want be a girl, so that we won’t hear others say “They are gay”. Instead, they will say “They looks like so happiness”. I want be a girl, so that I can easy to find a man to date. But now I could only find friends in the gay clubs or some gay dating sites. I want be a girl, so that I could have our own babies.
But now I am a gay, they said “If you shed tears then you miss the sun, you also miss the stars”. From now on to be a happy gay. Caring about everyone who love me. It must be true love, if your partner could get nothing but love from you.
I’m a gay, but I want be a girl! Am I wrong?
Gay’s love is disapproved by many people indeed. But beyond all question it’s one kind of true love. Just few people could enjoy it. You don’t like eat cake, but you don’t have right to stop others eat it. Straight have the right to looking for love, also gay, bisexual, lesbian have the right. This is so called equality.
If you are luckily to be a gay, I think you must have doubt whether equality really exist. Please forgive my words are straightway. I have to say it is objective fact. “Coming out” is like you are the first people who wear bikini and walk on the street. All people’s eyes are on you. But it couldn’t encourage you, opposite it make you feel fear. It seems hide yourself is the best way to avoid it. Did you successful?
Proof by fact, brave people always try to do some things looks like impossible and always successful. It’s not because they have a good luck. It’s because they know what is important. What is the most happiness thing for a gay? Could you answer my question?
A good partner? Nice job? I don’t think these are right answers. Do you know that you will be a pioneer for the gay that hundreds of years later? What you need is brave heart. I’m not mean you must come out right now. I think many articles have talked about how a gay come out. You don’t have to do it. Just don’t hesitate when you meet another gay you really love.
If you have come out as gay, bisexual, lesbian, remember all counsels and forget all sneers. You are just a strange gay in the eyes of those who laugh at you. But you are everything in the eyes of who love you. Will you stop to find a true gay partner because of these stranger’s behavior? Don’t hesitate, just do it. Because nothing can change it – you are gay.
If you are lucky to be a bisexual fish, don’t worry about it. There are some tips from others’ experience, and those tips could help you to blend in bisexual group faster. If you are lucky to be a bisexual fish, don’t worry about it. There are some tips from others’ experience, and those tips could help you to blend in bisexual group faster.
Bisexuality is different with other sexual orientation people. Bisexuality is harder to identify than gay and lesbian. Based on the flow of the sexual, bisexual people have a multidirectional choices. These choices could confuse bisexual people. But don’t worry about it. Every Bi people has experienced it. They have some tips for the bisexual fish.
1. Don’t be restrained by your identify. Sexual orientation is flowing. It could change in the future. The bisexual label will not follow you forever. At first, you should know that you are bisexual at present. There are some women who identify as lesbian even though they date men. The function of label is that it could help you find the right community. So that the label is not permanent even if it is daunting. Don’t treat the label as an invariable faith.
2. Bisexual community grow up fast. You even don’t know “bisexual” when you are in senior high school. You may not meet any bisexual in college. But after graduation you can met so many gay, lesbian, bisexual. Bisexual is everywhere. You just don’t know it. Because gay, lesbian and straight are obviously. Anyone may indeed be bisexual. If you can join a bisexual community, you will know it clearly.
3. Whether to coming out.This is not only care about bisexuality. Gay and lesbian also face the same question. It’s harmful to anyone that suppress themselves for a long time. You may know who is really love you when you come out. The people who don’t care about you may reject you without hesitation. The people who treat you as acquaintance will alienation you. The people who really love you will always give you warm hug anytime and anywhere. So what is your choice?